八婆定義 / Definiation of assholes
英國第一個被我判斷為「臭八婆」的, 佢叫呀Na喎! 她是我公司裏一位不低級職員, 位職商務經理。仍記得初見面時, 虛稱是店經理, 表面風趣熱情, 臉子大過天, 吸引別人眼球意欲極強; 我雖然參與大會次數甚少, 從她開會的表現略知, 每次說話都比總經理還要多🌊, 叫停也停不了。我遇過太多此類人了, 早已見怪不怪。但何解特別惹我憎, 要記下此君?!
初進公司已感受得到被淘汰的命運, 因她們吩咐一位每週只做18小時的「老屎忽」教我, 而每次她會找藉口在眾人前痛罵我😵, 硬說我英文差, 做嘢慢, 她和「臭八婆」常投訴我賴, 安排許多粗重的職務給我搬運 (仿如搬運工人, 至今仍是, 也是被迫計劃離職主因) , 因常被屈不依指示辦事, 故每當我確實她們所提出的要求時, 第一句總是批評我: 咁淺易都聽唔明。然後, 不滿地要在旁同事跟進; 心善的就確實她的要求, 黑心的就仿傚她們態度臭罵。我是知那幾個部門話事人(有些與我同級的)早已商量好趕我走, 因她們當著我面前拋下一句: 人哋識揾大佬, 有大佬掙呀! 其實我沒有甚麼大佬(big boss), 只是她們大聲, 我英文不弱而然。只因工作了幾個星期的某天, 總經理忽然走來嚴
肅地問我: Sulena你是否聽唔明Christina的話? 我還不知死活, 心善地解釋只是偶爾而已, 因佢強西班牙語音重, 她又喜歡夾雜西班牙語說話, 我雖然略懂, 但速度太快。還儍儍地說了一句: Se un poco de espanol. 總經理也忍笑了回應我: 我唔知你講乜, 你只做了幾星期, 佢在此工作十幾年, 你只雖答我yes or no。我誠實作答了NO便工作至今。如非我這般成熟和堅持, 維持在此工作甚艱難, 離開的都好奇問「你仲做緊?!」🙄
故事說到此只是開始。但她仍不配被呼「臭八婆」, 最多是「死八婆」。兩者有何分別? 「死」一了百了, 不會臭氣熏天, 終日不得安寧。
總經理私下委派了我部門經理讓我熟識日常運作, 情況開始改善。當然, 她也是投我走的一人, 只是個性較內儉怕事、工作專業紮實, 但心胸狹窄了點, 她最多都是黑臉不回應, 比起大呼小叫好好多。起初她的態度也只是投其所好, 教我都是點到即止, 總向微小犯錯挑剔批評, 太嘮叨吧。漸漸地, 她在我身上找到一點亮、一點臉子和被尊重, 她更有心機與我工作; 又因她個性和自私的驅使下, 不滿我被外派幫忙其他部門工作, 或管理層直接委派工作給我等, 她認為「Sulena所謂的好」全因她的功勞。她成功了, 她只想我每天獨自一人在她部門某角落重複單一項工作; 久而久之, 我學習其他範圍的工作機會減少了。此君欠缺安全感, 控制欲強。
一直我是有感覺我被一些有心人討厭玩弄, 因沒有真憑實據, 總自我勉勵: 再做好些吧! 常自責, 這麼容易的工作, 為何總令別人氣得暴跳如雷? 日子久了, 發覺是敵意對待。昨天引證我的自責是無稽的, 有些立志與你為敵的人, 她們會做盡一切旦求消滅你於無形。背後中傷, 憑空捏造事非, 挑撥離間, 處處監視找錯失, 強屈失職不達標, 創作解僱理由。生命中偶然出現此等下人, 我唯一武器就是做好自己。今次, 多謝同事的質問, 令我有機會了解現況, 確實猜疑; 他們的質問已代表我獲他幾位的信任, 所以我能平靜地回應了: Who said that? Na? our manager Na? I said nothing. I didn't complaint anyone or anything to her. That's night we can complete several thousand units at around 6 am, so effective & efficient. Meanwhile, I didn't heard any complaint about there have any missed 25 happened from Na or others. Thank you tell me that, I'm really shock😥. 其他沒發聲而深深相信『臭八婆』的事非的, 相信為數不少, 我會體諒, 更以禮待人, 激死佢。🤣🤣🤣
今早, 決定繼續努力為公司工作, 目標是成為一位有價值Commerical Manager取而代之, 或看看她們找什麼理由辭退我, 激死她們🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣。順便一題, 公司有個部門專為員工提供網上教學, 因此在工作中幫我不少👍🏻。可惜, 最近一次網上Assessment, 不獲經理批准參與, 原因是Sulena好忙, 無時間, 下次先。🤔😅
強調吓「臭八婆」是中國北方人嫁了一個外國人到此定居。她既然討厭我, 背後中傷狠批我辦事不力, 為何又要指定氹我幫佢手, 好彩減至每週1天了事。大陸女人心態真複雜!🤑🤮🤥🤬
媽咪常道: 不招人妒是庸才。您個囡做到, 放心我不是庸才。開心總比不悅多, 每天回公司沿途穿過一個墳場, 有隻小松鼠總是自由自在地游走, 一群白鴿在忘我地覓食, 即使我穿梭其中, 大家都不怕對方, 各
忙各的, 那刻有點像童話中的女主角👸🏻, 我最終會幸福收場👸🏻🤴🏻💞🤣。
Let's talk about "Super Bitch" this morning.🤣🤣🤣
The first person in the UK that I met & judged as a "super bitch", called Na. She is a senior employee in my company with title of commercial manager. She introduced herself is the store manager when we met. The first impression of her, she is a funny and enthusiastic person, everyone must do her a favour, and a strong attention seeker. Although I was invited to attend the FL meeting less, each time she speaks more than the GM or another seniors🌊, even GM can't stop her. I've met so many attention seekers. But why I feel disgusting on her so much?! Let's start the story.
At the first few weeks, I've already sense will being eliminated soon because a part time lady (18 hours a week) who was assigned as my work guidance. Every Thursday & Sunday she would find some excuses to insult me😵. Her comments on me are very poor English, non efficient working capacities. Both of them often complained me being lazy, so they arranged me to carry huge moving duties as if haulage men that is the main reason for being forced to plan to leave. Additionally, they complained that I always reluctant to obey ther instructions. However, whenever I tried to reconfirm thier instructions, they will criticize me why can't understand such easy communication. Then, they will pass me to junior colleagues, some will comfort me & some will copy thier bad attitude. To be honest, I know that my department included those juniors have an intention to kick me out. Some even didn't care about me saying that I have big boss's support. In fact, I didn't have any consolidative supports. A day after working for a few weeks, the GM suddenly came to me and asked me seriously whether am I understand what Christina saying or not? not allowed to say anything, just replied her Yes or No. My answer is NO, & then working here until now. Although "Se un poco de espanol", I can't catch her up sometimes & she hated I reconfirmed with her. If I ain't a mature and persistent person, it should be quit as if others, so those who resigned are curiously ask me "Are you still here?!" 🙄
My story just starts. But she doesn't deserve to be called "Super Bitch", at most "Bastard".
The GM privately assigned my department manager to let me know the rountine operation. My situation began to improve. She is a humble but tend to manipulative person. Although she's never ever yelling to me, her attitude to me is just stagnant & minor mistakes seeker. Her nagging, sometimes, gave me pressure. Gradually, she found a little light & a little face from my performance as well as being respected. She was willing to work with me. Due to her personality and selfishness, unfortunately, she dissatisfied that I was assigned to help other departments or management assigned the tasks to me directly. She believes that "Sulena's so-called well-done" is all due to her. She succeeded not sharing Sulena with others even management, she just wants me to repeat a single job every day alone in a corner of her own department. Over time, the opportunities for me to learn other areas of work diminished. She lacks a sense of job security and has a strong desire to control.
The story still doesn't mention what the "Super Bitch" did to make me so angry?😤
I have always sense that I was hated & played by some ones. I often think why does such an easy job always make others so angry? Until yesterday, I were awakened up. If some people who are determined to be your enemy, they will do everything they can to destroy you. Slandering, lying, sowing discord, monitoring to seek my mistakes & etc mainly for dismissal of me. When encounter such kinda people, my super weapon is Do My Best. This time, I would like to thank for my colleague who questioning me which gave me the opportunity to explain & confirm my suspicious. Their asking that has already represented they believed in me. I calmly responsed that Who said that? Is that Na? I didn't say anything. I didn't complain to her about anyone or anything. That night, we were able to complete several thousands of units at around 6am, that's very effective and efficient. At the same time, I haven't h
eard any complaints from Na or others about missed 25 happened. Thanks for letting me know, I'm really shocked😥. I know most of the silence colleagues are deeply believed those comments from Na. I can be considerate of thier situation & treat people with more courtesy so that to provoke her lies . 🤣🤣🤣
This morning, I decided to keep working hard for my company with the goal of becoming a valuable Commerical Manager to replace the Super Bitch, or wait & see what reasons they give out to fire me.🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣. By the way, the company has a department that provides online teaching for employees, so it helps me a lot at work👍🏻. Unfortunately, the most recent online assessment was not approved by the manager to participate in. The reason is Sulena was very busy and had no time. Do it later on. 🤔😅It is emphasized that "Super Bitch" is a Chinese & married a foreigner to settle down in the UK. She hates me and slanders me for my incompetence, how come she appoints me to help her all the time? At present, it reduced to 1 day a week luckily. The mentality of mainland women is really complicated! 🤑🤮🤥🤬
Mummy always said: Not recruiting people is a memediocre. My happiness is more than unhappiness. Every day when I am on the way back to the company, I will walk through a cemetery. There are a little squirrel always walking around freely & a group of pigeons are being with busy on foraging. Even I am walking between them, we don't afraid of bothering with each others. I always feel like I am the heroine in fairy tales👸🏻, will have a very happy ending👸🏻🤴🏻💞🤣